Look at yourself in the mirror. Come on, really go for it. What do you see? A body that you sometimes have trouble loving? Insecurities that have been taking over your brain since your aunt said "but you're letting yourself go" at Christmas dinner in 2018? You're not alone, bestie.
In truth, we all have them, little (or big) voices in our heads that tell us that we should be more this, less that, hairier, less hairy... It's as if your body was a WhatsApp group where everyone gives their opinion without being asked.
But you know what? In 2025, we decided to do a big clean-up of all that. Not the kind of spring cleaning where you hide everything under the bed. No, the real clean-up. The one where you free yourself from these dictates that have been bothering you for too long.
So put on your most comfortable jogging bottoms, make yourself a hot chocolate (or a mojito, we don't judge), and let us tell you how to become your own body positive influencer. We promise, by the end of this article, you'll look at your body hair (or lack thereof) in a different light!
The (not so) secrets of confidence 🔓
The day I stopped listening to others
True story: the other day, I was scrolling on Insta and I came across Sarah, a girl from my old high school. She posted a photo of herself in a swimsuit, all natural, with the caption "My hair, my choice, your comments in my spam". Her BFF immediately said "But what will people think?". Sarah's response? "They'll think about their own business, Karen". QUEEN BEHAVIOR! 👑
And she's not alone! More and more people are throwing out the "y faut", "tu devrait", "à ta lieu je". Like this guy on TikTok who owns his creative hair-related motives and responds to haters with even crazier tutorials. Or this girl who started the hashtag #PoilsEtFière after a date made a comment to her.
My cat, Nugget, also taught me something important (yes, my cat gives life lessons, deal with it). He spends 80% of his day licking himself, and yet he doesn't care what the other cats in the neighborhood think. The only time he gets stressed is when there's no more kibble. Moral? Focus on what really matters.
The revelation: my body, my dictionary
Real talk: what's "normal" anyway? Wearing Crocs with socks? Putting pineapple on a pizza? Making a shopping list and buying everything except what's on it?
The thing is, we've been so fed up with "standards" that we've ended up believing it's the only option. As if there was only one way to be beautiful, only one style validated by the international committee of unsolicited opinion givers.
And then one day, BOOM! You wake up and realize you're sick of it. Sick of stressing about your summer body when summer is made for eating ice cream. Sick of wondering if your body hair is "socially acceptable" when society itself can't agree on whether pain au chocolat is called chocolatine.
Pro tip: Next time someone tries to tell you how to manage your body, ask them if they have any advice for your taxes too. At least that's something where there are actual rules to follow.
Ready for more? Let's talk styles, and trust me, it's going to be more fun than a Netflix marathon! 👀
Intimate style for dummies (like us) 🎨
Quiz: What style are you?
Come on, it's time for the most intimate personality test of 2025! It's like those Buzzfeed tests that tell you what kind of sandwich you are, but with fur.The free spirit 🌸
- Your mood: "Hair in the wind, and long live freedom!" - Your motto: "Nature does things well" (except on Monday mornings) - Your hero: Tarzan, but with an iPhone - Your routine: What routine? The free spirit is the one who lets nature express itself like an abstract artist. For you, hair is like plants: it grows on its own and that's fine.The meticulous one 💫
- Your mood: "Precision is my passion" - Your motto: "A well-trimmed hair is worth two" - Your hero: Edward Scissorhands (intimate version) - Your routine: More detailed than your savings plan You're the type to have a ruler and a compass in your bathroom. Every hair has its place, and if there's one that's sticking out, you know it.The seasonal worker 🌡️
- Your mood: "Like the weather, like the hair" - Your motto: "Winter is coming... or not" - Your hero: The weather on France 2 - Your routine: Change every three months, like your wardrobe You manage your hair like your wardrobe: spring/summer collection, fall/winter collection. In summer you're smoother than a dolphin, in winter you have more fur than a polar bear.The spontaneous 🎲
- Your mood: "We'll see tomorrow" - Your motto: "Life is full of surprises" - Your hero: The 6-sided die - Your routine: What is a routine? For you, every day is a new adventure. Sometimes you wake up wanting to be smoother than an egg, sometimes you want to look like Chewbacca. And that's what's beautiful.The golden rules (but in reality there aren't any)
Rule #1: Do what you want
It's like Netflix: you don't have to finish a series if you don't like it. Your hair? Same story. If today you want to change your style, do it yourself. The only person who has the right to vote here is you.Rule #2: If someone judges, show them rule #1.
You know those people who have an opinion on everything? Like the ones who tell you that you chose the wrong color socks? Well, it's the same with body hair. If someone makes a remark to you, remember that their opinion is as important as the latest TikTok post from a healthy food influencer.Rule #3: Comfort first
If there's one thing we've learned from years of wearing skinny jeans, it's that style is cool, but comfort is better. Your intimate style should make you feel as good as pajamas on Sunday morning. Pro tip: If you can't decide on your style, close your eyes and imagine yourself in your best life. What do you look like? There you have it. (If you imagined being a unicorn, we can't help you though.) Ready for the next part? We're going to talk about how to become the best version of yourself, and spoiler alert: it doesn't involve getting up at 5am to meditate! 😎Mission: become the best version of yourself 🚀
The 2025 Survival Kit
Like in a good cooking recipe, there are essential ingredients to feel good in your hair (or not). Here is your shopping list of happiness:The essentials ⭐
- A billy clipper : Because even rebels need quality tools. It's like a light saber, but for your hair - A dose of humor : It even works in the shower, and it doesn't take up space in the bathroom - Friends who don't give a damn : You know, the ones who tell you "as long as you're happy" and who really mean it - A mirror that makes you smile : Not one of those magnifying mirrors that make you see things that even your dermatologist hasn't seenBonuses that change everything
- A crazy playlist : Because getting ready in silence is like eating pizza without cheese - File photos of your friends : To remind you that everyone has had their "I tried something" phase - A countdown to your next date : To stress out... or not!The “I love my life” moments 🌈
When you realize you're a bombshell
It's that magical moment when you step out of the shower, the fog on the mirror clears and BAM! You see yourself and think "Damn, I actually look pretty good". It's like finding a ticket in an old jacket, but better.The validations we didn't expect
- Your date who validates your style without even talking about it - Your little cousin who says you're "too stylish" in front of the whole family - Your ex who runs into you and makes that "oh shit, he/she's hot now" faceThe Ultimate Liberation
You know you've succeeded when: - You answer "because I wanted to" when asked why you changed your style - You post a photo without filters (and without stressing for 3 hours) - You give advice to others when 6 months ago you were still stressingThe secret to loving your body
The warrior routine
- In the morning: Quick check in the mirror + smile (even if you look like a tired panda) - During the day: Remember that we're not on Insta, real life has no filters - In the evening: Self-care session with your billy clipper (or not, it's up to you) Pro tip: If you're unsure about your style, ask yourself if it makes you feel like a well-rolled burrito: comfortable and ready to conquer the world. If so, then you're doing it right!Mantras that feel good
- "My body, my period, your comments in my spam" - "I'm not a work of art, I'm a work in progress" - "The only hairs that matter are the ones that make me feel good" Ready to see how to handle awkward moments? Because yeah, there will be some (but I promise, we'll laugh about it)! 😎The struggles we've all experienced (and how not to care) 🎢
Awkward situations
The pool moment 🏊♂️
We all know that moment. You get to the pool, take off your shirt, and... someone is staring at your body hair like you're a modern art exhibit. Options: - The passive-aggressive response: "I know, it's a limited edition" - The direct approach: "Do you want a picture? It lasts longer" - The pro method: *Swims laps in majestic mermaid mode*The awkward discussion with the roommate 🏠
- Them: "Uh... did you change anything?" - You: "Yeah, I reorganized my hair chakras" - Them: *Confused silence* - You: *Continues drinking your coffee like a boss*The meeting that goes awry 💘
- Scene 1: The moment they try to give their "unsolicited opinion" - Scene 2: You responding with more sass than an entire season of RuPaul's Drag Race - Scene 3: The waiter who comes in with dessert and saves (or doesn't) the dayHow to get by like a boss 😎
The "I don't care but with style" guide
- Level 1: The enigmatic smile - Level 2: The rock eyebrow raise - Level 3: The "Ah, did you notice? It's my new spring/summer collection" - Final boss level: The "Thanks for your opinion, I'll put it away with my other stuff I don't care about"The "it's not a bug, it's a feature" technique
When someone points out something that is out of "the norm": - "Yes, it's asymmetrical. Like my soul." - "It's not disordered, it's artistically chaotic" - "I'm setting the trends for 2025, you'll understand later"The Subtle Art of Answering Indiscreet Questions
- Question: "But why do you..." - Answer: "Interesting question. Why do you ask prying questions?" Pro tips for handling any situation: 1. Remember that embarrassment is like yogurt: it has an expiration date 2. If someone stares at you for too long, ask them if they want your opinion on their haircut too 3. Keep in mind that in 10 years, it will make a funny story to tellThe express survival kit
- A pair of headphones (to ignore the comments while playing music) - Prepared answers (like UNO cards, always ready) - A friend on WhatsApp (to debrief WTF moments) - A dose of self-mockery (your best ally) Remember: If someone makes you feel uncomfortable with your body, remember that Beyoncé has hair too. She doesn't care, and she runs the world. Be like Beyoncé. 👑 Ready for the conclusion? Spoiler: there's a plot twist (or not)! 😎Confidence, your new superpower 💫
The recap of things to remember (or not)
Okay, we've come to the end of our hair TED Talk, and honestly? If you didn't remember anything we said before, just remember this:The real facts of life
- The only opinion that matters about your body is yours (and maybe your cat's, but he already judges you 24/7 anyway) - There is no "normal" in 2025, there are only people who love their life - If someone judges you for your body hair, remember that they probably have an embarrassing TikTok account
FAQ that rocks
“But what if no one likes my style?” 🤔
You know who else people didn't like at first? - Crocs (now there are Balenciaga versions) - Tattoos (now even your grandma has one) - Ketchup in pasta (ok, this one is still controversial)“How do I know if it fits me?” 🎯
- If you like it = it suits you - If you don't like it = change - If you hesitate = flip a coin (or ask your cat)“What if I change my mind?” 🔄
Fun fact: you're not a smartphone stuck on iOS 3. You can do all the updates you want! - Today natural style - Tomorrow minimalist style - Next week... who knows? Maybe a QR code (we don't judge)
The last words (we promise we'll leave you afterwards) 🎤
Your champion checklist
- ✅ Own your style like it's a Gucci collection - ✅ Don't give a damn about unsolicited opinions like it's a Monday morning - ✅ Always have your billy clippers charged (just in case inspiration strikes) Ultimate pro tip: Next time you look in the mirror, pretend you're your biggest fan. Like, really. Hype yourself up like you just won Secret Story (only better).For the road...
If someone makes a comment to you, remember that dolphins don't have hair and they do very well in life. You too can be a dolphin (metaphorically, eh, let's not kid ourselves).PS: Before you leave... 🎁
Welcome officially to the #BillyFamily! It's like the Avengers, but hairier (or not, it's up to you). Here, the only rules are: 1. There are no rules 2. Except not to run with the lawnmower (that's sacred) 3. Just enjoy your life
See you soon for new furry adventures! 🚀
Signed: Your friend who assumes that talking about hair is as normal as wearing socks under your flip-flops (actually no...).
*Plot twist: if you've read this far, you're already more confident than 99% of people. True story.*
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